(Or how to deal when your kid has the upper hand)

Quinn in 2020, aged 16 and still strong willed

The Fight to End All Fights

Picture me in 2013: I was a 37 year old married mother of two, and my younger son Quinn, who is medically complicated, pretty high needs, and developmentally delayed, was 9. It was the middle of the day, he and I were in his bedroom, in a fight, and I…

Are you nailing yourself to that cross?

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“Why doesn’t she date him?” My boyfriend asked as we watched the man hosting our friend’s birthday party drive the kids around in a wagon pulled behind his atv in his giant, fully equipped, beautiful backyard.

“I dunno, too nice?” I replied.

By the end of the night, my bf…

… but what does it mean?

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I love telling people I am an Existential Kink Coach.

They generally have no idea what I’m talking about and think it has something to do with sex.

Their curiosity is aroused.

How do I explain myself?

I ask them if they have situations in their lives that they Don’t Like that they come up against, repeatedly.

The answer is, inevitably, yes.

What does it look like?

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Ok, I’ll admit it.

I used the popular catchphrase “self-care” to get your attention.

The first thing I want to do is throw the phrase out the window. It has become conflated with things like Epsom salt baths, meditation, and spa days, and it now reeks of white privilege. In my opinion.

Self-love then?

That one…

Photo of candle, crystal ball, and incense by Tara Plas.
Photo by Tara Plas

The process of magic can look infinitely different, but it works like this:

  • The Magician decides what they want and how to ask for it.
  • The Magician performs some sort of spell or ritual, which can be as simple as a passing thought, or more complicated than you can possibly…

Tara Plas

Certified Existential Kink coach. Shadow dancer. Magical person. Parent. Non-binary, neuro-divergent weirdo with opinions.

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